my son was born in 1963. i had nowhere else to go but back home.... didn't have a job and thought adoption was my only way out.... today he is 43 and i know i'll probably never find him. it is really sad
Name:
Catherine Robinson Email:
Location:
Kansas City, USA MO
Comment:
951
Saturday, 19 April 2008 - 03:22:32pm
My son was taken from me nearly 18 years ago. Never in my life have I wanted more than to have my son back. He was not raised by amazingly wonderful people....just rich ones who could afford to steal a baby from an uneducated, uninformed teenage girl.
Name:
Jane Doe
Location:
Boulder, CO
Comment:
950
Saturday, 19 April 2008 - 02:22:27pm
We need to abolish social work as well. Social workers just make mountains out of molehills and they abuse power every day which harms children and does not protect them. Things need to go back to how they were when the Florence Crittenton Homes were first founded--Single mothers who were encouraged to keep their babies, got help and support while being able to live their with their babies for up to two years instead of immoral social workers manipulating their flesh and blood away from them. Social workers should be in jail for slander, for stealing, and for abuse. The United States needs to see the truth about how horrible adoption is for birth parents and adopted people and ignore the stupid movies and tv shows that lie about it. If teenagers have a baby, then it should be automatic that they get help from their parents and she should keep her baby as the baby is a FAMILY MEMBER, who deserves love and acceptance. Each family member is precious and just as important as any other, and no one should be kicked out of or taken away from a family-adoption is one of the evilest, horrific systems in this country, along with social work and both systems need to be abolished. It is time to rise up and rebel and take the power away from the sick people in these industries that never deserved it, along with severely punishing them for the hell they have caused others.
Name:
Cassi Ward Email:
Location:
Broomfield, CO USA
Comment:
949
Wednesday, 9 April 2008 - 06:12:00pm
Enough is enough. It's time to stop the harm to natural mothers and their children at the expense of another dollar made.
Name:
sharon davis Email:
Location:
madera, ca us
Comment:
948
Monday, 7 April 2008 - 05:01:09pm
My grandchildren were taken away from their mother at birth, I wanted custody of them, but I was told by CPS and a judge that I had no right to them just because I was the grandparent. They were put up for adoption behind my back. I was hung up on, and even threatened by these people many times. I am raising the sister of the boys, and I was told if I did not back off they would find a way to remove her from my home. The boys were sold, the money is all they were interested in. I know the judge put a fair amount in their pockets, and the social workers get a fair amount, the adoptive parent gets a very small amount compared to CPS, judges, county counsel and state adoption agency. Its all about the money, babies for sale, especially White blue-eyed babies that bring big federal dollars to these agencies. Yet our Senators and Congressman look the other way. The Clintons are responsible for this...Bill Clinton signed our children away when he was in office. The CPS where I live adopts out hundreds of children a month, from poor; and homeless parents, the Judge in Madera County, has no regard for parents, and especially not grandparents. She considers them nothing but a bother to her. She won't even allow them in court. This is a very sick system, I can't believe it goes on in America, so much for freedom. I was even told by an adoption worker that children born today belong to the state - the parents are only allowed to raise them if it is done our way. This I believe. It is a fact, yet we sit and do nothing. WHY?
Name:
Allison Sowers
Location:
Thomasville, NC
Comment:
947
Friday, 4 April 2008 - 01:47:13pm
As an adoptee, I'm outraged that my rights are restricted for life. I made a small amount of progress in getting information (that should be MINE automatically) but the agent with whom I dealt built a roadblock...and the additional info I was requesting wasn't guarded by any privacy laws; she just didn't want to take the time or make the effort to help me. My birth family tried to keep tabs on me when I was a baby, but the agency discouraged them, and they finally stopped trying. All they wanted was a baby picture to give to my dying grandfather who wasn't able to travel to see me when I was born. I pray this makes a difference to someone else someday.
Name:
Holly Dotson Email:
Location:
Claremore, Ok U.S.A.
Comment:
946
Tuesday, 18 March 2008 - 07:34:53pm
I am an adopted child who was raised on welfare and left home at an early age to find a better life and I did. I have no knowledge of my medical history or anything because they sealed my records. I have a life...I want to know who had me... where did I live and what about my immunizations? I do not even have a shot record but I can see I have had a small pox vaccination. How is this a way to put meaning to our past if it is a closed book? I hope a change comes to this issue of sealed adoptions!
Name:
S. Morley Email:
Location:
Highland, MI USA
Comment:
945
Saturday, 15 March 2008 - 01:55:46am
It's time to end child trafficking practices in the US.
Name:
Cassandra Email:
Location:
Akwesasne, NY USA
Comment:
944
Tuesday, 11 March 2008 - 10:23:58pm
ADOPTION NEEDS AMENDMENT!! I was illegally adopted by a sociopathic child molester who failed two psych evaluations with other adoption agencies. THE COURTS ALLOWED THIS WOMAN TO TAKE ME HOME EVEN THOUGH THEY KNEW IT WAS AN ILLEGAL ADOPTION. Luckily I've found the information I will need to reverse this situation. But I didn't find it in time to keep two of my children from being molested as well. The state of Massachusetts was supposed to review the adoption and finalize. They never did, and I found out 42 years too late. My adoptive family was wealthy. Money can by anything. If you have it, you can get away with murder, rape, incest, AND ILLEGAL ADOPTION. Things need to change immediately.
Name:
michelle marquiess Email:
Location:
ft.worth, tx. u.s.a
Comment:
943
Saturday, 8 March 2008 - 01:15:14pm
I am a victim due to adoption....
Name:
annette edwards Email:
Location:
la puente, ca. los angeles
Comment:
942
Saturday, 8 March 2008 - 01:13:25pm
Definitely agree!!!!!I am a victim of adoption, now the state is trying to make my kids be victims also. The courts talk so much on breaking cycles- Well their the ones to talk!!! (Don't ever visit California).
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Catherine Courtney Email:
Location:
tacoma, wa. U.S.A.
Comment:
941
Thursday, 28 February 2008 - 04:40:16pm
Adoption should be abolished immediately. Aren't there any attorney's around who can initiate a class action suit? The violations of basic human, constitualional, and civil rights are just so obvious, any attorney should be able to do it. Some Latin American countries think Americans are adopting their children to use for spare body parts. I can't confirm or deny that, but the system is so rotten nothing horrible would surprise me. Catherine Courtney
Name:
Babyannie0304@yahoo.com Email:
Location:
Springfield, missouri United States
Comment:
940
Thursday, 28 February 2008 - 08:24:36am
my mother and ex husbands aunt stole my children....my house burnt down and they put me in a home and told the state i had abandoned them its been 13 years does anyone know if i have any rights? they were adopted by my mom and his aunt
Name:
Morgan Carroll Email:
Location:
Wethersfield, CT USA
Comment:
939
Wednesday, 27 February 2008 - 04:06:37pm
Being adopted has profoundly affected me. I feel a deep personal sadness. It's just not right for a person to have no personal history, and to have to pay huge sums of money just to get NON identifying information is a SLAP in the face of humanity.
Name:
Dave A. Rossetti Email:
Location:
Moultonborough, NH USA
Comment:
938
Thursday, 14 February 2008 - 08:16:56pm
HELP! For all the good people in America that don’t think bad things happen to good people, let me share my story with you in hopes that I may help arm you with some knowledge that I wish I had before calling the NH Division of heath and human services- specifically DCYF, the DIVISION of Children, Youths, and Families...
Name:
Teri Shaffer Email:
Location:
St. Petersburg, Fl. USA
Comment:
937
Saturday, 9 February 2008 - 09:18:15am
Adoption should be outlawed in our country. Children belong to their biological parents forever and should be encouraged to stay a family.
Name:
Thomas Orr Email:
Location:
Syracuse, New York United States
Comment:
936
Friday, 18 January 2008 - 06:28:43pm
My granddaughter was abducted by a group of agencies, people, and my wife, by bullying my daughter, withholding information, providing mis-information, and outright lies. The whole climate is so rigged to take advantage of young women who are so vunerable and scared. We need to change the status quo so that these young women are able to be "mommies" like they are meant to be.
It's time to stop the madness. If a child is truly an orphan.. maybe then it would be ok..
Name:
Elizabeth Gellatly
Location:
Newport Beach, Ca USA
Comment:
933
Monday, 24 December 2007 - 08:53:10am
I'm a mother whose life was ravenged by having lost my child to adoption in 1968. I was 15 and scared out of my right mind- and was told that if I loved my son I would let someone else raise him so his life would be wonderful. I was never able to reconcile this action, and still suffer, as if I had committed a most heinous crime, which in my heart, giving away your own flesh and blood truly is. It is as if I had cut off my arm and have had to look at the stub each day of my life. We wouldn't cut off our limbs to help another amputee would we? So why does it make sense to give away our own flesh and blood? They told us all that this was the right thing to do. I want to bring a lawsuit against those perpetrators who stole our children from us- NOW- even this many years later. My son is a stranger to me now. After forty years without me, I can certainly understand that- but it did not have to be- and I had no choice and so my life is one long ache until I finally die. How can anyone justify this? My life took a horrible turn for the worst as soon as the papers were signed. I married a drunk, abusive man at the age of 16 because no one could talk about this incident and this man told me that he was the only person who would be able to stand me- because I was damaged goods- at age 15! My life was taken from me. My child was taken from me. I had to hide and lie and be ashamed for forty years! How is this a good system? It never ends. I am functional on the outside, I am educated now, and I could have been back then too- if someone had given me a fighting chance. I am a good person and I am fantastic with children- the irony! I work with children and every day I see all the stages of these children's lives while I could not be part of my own child's life. The pain and suffering do not end with reunion. It is very difficult to see your child, whom you know nothing about, standing in front of you, while he is wondering what he is doing there, wondering who you are...wondering Are you crazy? Are you a monster? Why did you give him away? If he likes you, then he is mad that you gave him away. If he doesn't like you, then he thanks you for not making him stay with you because he had a better life without you. All painful. No win. Issues all around. We need to sue these people as the Catholic Church was sued for allowing child molesters to take similar life-altering advantage of young children using their authority and power wrongly and for personal gain.
Name:
Virginia Merrill OConnell Email:
Location:
haverhill, ma usa
Comment:
932
Sunday, 23 December 2007 - 08:32:19pm
Adoption is about infertile couples and others wanting children for their own reasons, not children needing parents. Adults filling their own needs at the expense of a child.
Name:
CC Tillett Email:
Location:
Tracyton, WA.
Comment:
931
Sunday, 23 December 2007 - 07:33:41am
I have never liked the thought of adoption. It makes my blood run cold. My nephew was adopted out to strangers even though many family members, including myself, have passed the DSHS background check. I fought this system like a "She Bear." I have just about lost everything. I wonder about him every day. Especially about his mental well being. He was extremly attached to his mom. I became an advocate for WashingtonFamiliesUnited.org and have started to advocate for changes. The system moves slowly. Adoption ruins just about everything it touches.
Name:
Stella Solomons Email:
Location:
Kensington, London Britain
Comment:
930
Sunday, 16 December 2007 - 06:48:16am
Blood is thicker than water. The apple never falls far from the tree. Inherited family traits can be summed up as a child being a chip of the old block. These sayings point out kinship. I like to think it's okay to share them here.
Adoption is one of the harshest matters for anyone to deal with. There is no such thing as a "good adoption."
Name:
quinn berry Email:
Location:
victoria, bc canada
Comment:
928
Saturday, 8 December 2007 - 08:39:50am
Adoption can easily be replaced by guardianship. It's a matter of truth versus lies that are usually a part of adoption, legally santioned. Most adopted persons oppose the secrecy. For those who enjoy secrecy, at least do not impose it on others or try to make their views flasely appear to be a majority view. It affects the adopted more than birth parents or anyone else.
